How to stay in touch with university friends after graduation

10 Jun 2021
By Hazel M., Freelance writer, journalist and total bookworm at Unite Students
Finishing university can be almost as nerve-wracking (if not more so) than when you started – especially if you’re not sure what to expect after graduation.

After all, graduating is a significant milestone; you’ve done all the hard work and now you’re about to head out into the real world. Crazy, right?

From looking for a graduate job to moving back in with your parents, there’s a lot to unpack when it comes to moving on.

But, when I finished university, one of my biggest fears was losing touch with all the people I had become close to over that time.

After spending three years living with people who had become almost like a second family, not knowing when I would see them again was ever-so-slightly terrifying. Would we go our separate ways, never to meet again?

The answer is yes and no, to be honest. I mean, some people will definitely fall off the radar at some point, but your real friends are there for life. I’m not kidding.

So, what can you do to keep it all going when you’re no longer in the same place?

1) Video call each other

We live in the time of great technology, so make the most of it! Video calling is a great way to keep in touch with people, so make it a regular thing and get it in the diary.

Be wary that people will get busy as they get jobs or go travelling, so be realistic about what you can all do. Even a monthly catch-up is better than nothing.

2) Plan meet-ups

If you all live far away from each other and meeting regularly isn’t an option, plan in one or two weekends together a year that you know you can all make. You can always add in other ones later.

Each time you meet, put a new date in the dairy, so you always have something to look forward to.

3) Book a holiday together

Why not take your annual meet-ups that step further and plan a holiday? It’s a great way to make those catch-ups extra special.

Not only is booking a holiday the best way to see new places, but you’ll get to spend quality time with your favourite uni pals, too.

4) Be understanding

One of the quickest ways to lose friends is to get upset over the small things. If someone can’t make an event or a call, don’t take it personally – things get busy and not everyone can be flexible.

If someone does fail to keep in touch, though, don’t be scared to let them know you’re worried. Being understanding goes a long way to keeping in touch over the years, but making an effort goes two ways. It’s all about balance!

5) Be there for the big things

In the words of How I Met Your Mother, make a pact to be there for the big moments.

Even if you know you can’t make some of the random meet-ups, even just showing up to those big birthdays, weddings or baby showers (trust me, they’re all to come sooner than you think) will make sure you never lose sight of what’s important.

For more tips on university and friendships, click here.

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