‘Brief moments are enough’: Why my friend is so supportive
As part of our Unite Against Loneliness campaign, student writer Kacey talks about how her friend is so supportive.
My friend and I go to different universities, so most of our conversations are via online messaging. It’s convenient as we can get to each other quickly.
They were a consistent presence with me when I was having a rough month, always there when I needed them, no matter what the time was. It definitely helped knowing they were only a text message away.
We went to the same high school and college, so have known each other for years. We talk and support each other regularly and, despite being at different universities, our bond has strengthened.
Communicating mostly via online messaging means my friend can take their time to find the right words, helping me feel better in ways that would be harder if we were meeting in person. I find it can be easy to say the ‘wrong’ thing when you’re face-to-face, so messaging definitely works for us.
We have different sleeping patterns and don’t always know when each other’s lectures are. But we don’t let it stop us. For the most part, when one of us sends a message, the other is usually awake and ready to respond. It sometimes feels like I’ve got a friend in my pocket, ready to help in any way, and it’s nice to return those feelings and that support.
Even with my coursework, my friend helped talk me through the tough parts, calming me down. They also helped motivate me to do the bits I find more annoying than interesting. On days where I can’t understand the material, or when I feel exceptionally down, it helps having them there.
My friend talks to me a lot when things get tough. They’ll send me short videos to watch, weird pictures they find on the internet. It’s nice to receive these things, as it can help distract me from what goes on around me.
They may only distract me for a few brief moments, but those moments are often enough to help me feel better and get me through. And that's why I think it's so important to keep in touch with friends from home.
Need some additional support?
Nightline is a nationwide, free, and confidential listening service run by trained student volunteers for other students. Local services operate across the country and lines are open through the night during term time - usually from 8pm until 8am.
You can call anonymously and talk about whatever issues are worrying you, and most Nightlines offer a text and email service as well. It’s not about advice and you’ll never, ever be judged - it’s just a safe space for you to talk about how you feel. Find your Nightline at the Nightline Association website.
Student Space is another great resource that’s available to you. It’s dedicated to helping you through these uncertain times and gives you the opportunity to get free, confidential support via phone, email, text or webchat.